I'd recommend the AsRock 990FX Extreme9, that is if you want full quality. Another motherboard that matches up to it similarly would be the ASUS Crosshair V Formula-Z.
Hahaha! Wow, 1997 hardware on 2013 software, thats amazing. I do think an upgrade will be necessary for newer games. You should validate your setup with cpu-z or gpu-z, I absolutely have to see it!
Try right clicking and uninstalling the driver the intel 4000. If that doesn't work try going into your BIOS and there should be a display device option somewhere in there. To get into the BIOS (on most computers) repeatedly press the...