First things first, Thank you everyone for all your suggestions! Well it took all day but I think I got it! I did allot of reading on my laptop today while I was attempting to oc this beast! Just about every oc i seen with this MB the cpu voltage was between 1.50-1.55 So it eased my mind a little about my voltages being so high. well the very last thing I read up on was my ram. I found out everyone was OC it from 1866 to 2000 with ease and still running it at 1.5v so I lowered my ram voltage and Bam! System stable!! 2 hours on prime 95 and a video rendering test and no crashes so far. So "for now" here is my final settings.
4.012GHz Cpu 1.475v
HT Link 2124 <- wish it was a bit lower
Ram 1888 (9-10-9-27-2T) I want to change this still
everything else I set manually but left at stock settings.
So I broke the 4.0 barrier that I wanted and still kept my ram at the 1866 I paid for I still would like to tighten up my latency timings a bit. And would eventually maybe see if I could hit 4.1 GHz but I'm happy with 4.0