Originally Posted by WiSK
Kyis is right, first push the pin back into the housing.
The problem is the wings dig into the housing, so you need to free the wings before the extractor tool is able to squeeze them. Once they are loose and squeezed then the pin should come out much easier. Here's my excellent drawing again. The housing is the brown colour and you can see the wings digging in there.
it looks great man, thanks for the extra explanation
its kinda hard to explain something that doesn't 100% of the time work lol, tome times you just gotta keep jiggling it pushing the pin up in the housing and pushing the wings down in more attempts. But whatever you do, don't use alot of force, pins should go down fairly easy and it will slide out smoothly.