Yeah, having went through the whole process without much knowledge, I guess I might as well pass it on...
Just remember to find the cpu's max fsb (i posted on it earlier) first then work your settings and timings around that... thats basically what I screwed up on
Also three guides you should look at:
the first is just a DFI overclocking toturial... though you probably already know what to do from reading about what i went through (explains alot of the lanparty
the second explains all the timings and proper settings for them (very helpful since dfi lanparties offer so many options and you generally don't know what half of them mean)
the last is about a few different stability tests and how to run them properly on a dual core processor (quite helpful)