Think I finally fixed my issues. I think it was the BIOS and drivers. My clocks were soo irratic sometimes and unresponsive to adjusting them in precisionx but behaved perfectly with the reference BIOS.
I noticed the GPU wasn't seated 100% and when I re seated it Windows 8 had a heart attack and would no longer boot, so I had to do a clean install. With reference BIOS and current WHQL and a fresh install my scores were beating my valley scores from before and now with a nice overclock and the engineering BIOS that Alatar gave us I'm getting over 200 more points in valley which is a huge difference and much more comparable to what the scores should be. Still being held back a bit by something but whatever, new motherboard this week, will try that out and then throw this junk CPU away and get a good overclocking 3930k when I find one. Hopefully that will bring me back to the performance it was at before.
3820 running 5040mhz, GTX Titan running 1202mhz core, 6912mhz memory, 1212mv with the engineering BIOS Alatar gave us.
3261 Score...and max overclock with reference BIOS (Click to show)
With reference BIOS best I could do was 1189mhz core and 6696mhz memory 1187mv stable with no throttling. So that was better than any run I could do before by 100 points.
Now time for some Battlefield 3 tests.