i dont think i'd go xtrememusic because my friend has had some issues with them. In all essentials though, the xtremegamer is pretty much the same card as the xtrememusic right? or so i heard.
I would say go for one of these combos on newegg
It doesn't come out and say it, but i think it is one of the high end fatality cards (those are the only ones with the LED box on the top) and it comes with some decent headphones for the price of just an Xtreme Gamer.