Originally Posted by fergsonfire
additional, damn I am one of the stupid kids!
I'm sure you meant, "Additionally"? Or is it only others' grammar you feel needs to be correct?
Oh, I could go on all day about this subject. My brother has been a high school math teacher for 25 years, and he shares his "fun" with me all the time. As I see it, here's a lot of the problem: we lower our standards so that everyone succeeds instead of holding kids accountable for their own success. Using media is a moronic way to give in to kids' interests. I don't care who thinks it helps kids learn faster, it doesn't. What it does
do is let kids spend their time playing games and getting around the rules instead of doing what they know they're supposed to do. We no longer value intelligence or scholarship in popular society, because the examples that kids see are people that are getting famous selling drugs and then making songs about it; and these people have everything they've ever wanted. Why get an education when you can just do that? The sad thing is that these same kids wonder what happened when they get out of high school and don't have the grades or discipline to make it through college. Why is it that parents now feel that kids shouldn't ever be upset about anything? That's part of life, and if you don't teach your kids to deal with disappointment, they will never be able to adjust in the real world to challenges that everyone faces!
That being said, I do NOT condone smacking a kid, ever. It might be gratifying to the adult at the time, but it breeds resentment and teaches that violence is a suitable solution to frustration. I got smacked plenty in school, but if a teacher ever hit one of my kids, I would beat that teacher to death right in their classroom. Ok, not to death, but I think I made my point.
The answer is NOT to lower the standards so that everyone succeeds, it is to stop listening to kids whine about how tough everything is. You can't spell? Try studying. You can't do math? Get some help from someone who is better at it than you. You don't like the rules? Tough $**t, follow them anyway, they are rules for a reason. Above all, stop expecting your kids to learn everything with no input from you as a parent. You are the example they will base their lives on; recognize it and show them how to deal with life and all aspects of it. If your child falls down, let them pick themselves up; it is one of the hardest things to do as a parent, but it MUST be done.
I'm saying this as a single parent of a 19 year old college student. I raised her myself, and she's never been hit in her life. She got herself a scholarship because she worked for it. She didn't always like me growing up, but she knows all she needs to know to succeed in this world because I wasn't afraid to hurt her feelings and held her accountable, just like society will. Oh, and she's recently decided to go pre-med.