I'll let you know what your doing wrong. Your spoiling him silly with a budget of $4,000 USD. A budget of $1500-$2000 and under will accomplish the same as a a $4,000 USD build. You can either consider an AMD Phenom X6 1100T build or a I7 2600K Sandy Bridge build for the budget that I outlined. As others have mentioned that $4,000 USD's can be spent elsewhere since he is moving out.
Additionally you posted in the wrong section. It should be under either Intel Build/Logs or AMD Build/Logs.
Sorry for the wrong section, I'll get my jist around the forums sooner or later, my condolences.
Well the monitor is coming in 2weeks amazon says. And I honestly Think of giving him a check for just 2,000$USD, with the monitor, so then he will know, I still got to get word from him if he will buy part's or not, I wish he would log on msn. have to wait until saturday.....