Yes you definitely helped! So i was in a spiral of decision making and actually ordered an asus rog machine, which i sent back because it benchmarked pretty slow (that decision cost me $200 over at newegg...). then i ordered an msi gs75 from CUK (also thru newegg) but after a full week they had not shipped it so i cancelled that ordered and got a full refund.
If you're still reading, you're a saint, thank you. I ordered another msi gs75 from amazon, but it had the GTX 2070 max Q instead of the full 2070, so i shipped that back and i expect full credit from a very kind reseller on amazon (excalibur pc).
Since then i've done more research and decided to spend a bit more and get the
i9-9900k processor (why not have the best!)
GTX 2070 (full version) gpu
32mb ram in dual 16gb sticks @300
500GB Samsung EVO Plus SSD
1 TB firecuda SSHD
... and all of that with upgraded thermal paste to keep it all running as cool as possible.
Those options would be very pricey from a name brand, so i'm looking at a custom build from GentechPC, ProStar, Sager or most likely XOTIC (the latter seems to have the best prices and some extras like OS boost and overclocking in the bios). I've included a screenshot of the selected options.
What do you think?
It'll be about $3000 incl tax, a bit more than i expected but i think the i0-9900K will serve me better than the i7-9750H.