okay, had enough trying multi combo's and formatted 3 times yesterday to single out specific drivers and finally a light bulb went off in my head! I simpley DISABLED the Killer NIC in the bios, and here is my mem usage now..... Finally back to normal. So something in the windows update and killer network drivers where not happy with each other. So now im just using the built in Intel AC wireless, and being 4 ft from the router, speeds are the same.
Nothing! Waiting for the 9900k and 2080ti to come out