Deletions can come in two forms.
A. Deleted just as a general cleanup should a user be quoting or copying another users ''Bad'' content, we will not notify said user automatically in these instances. This also includes multiple posts relating to the same issue, or for general arguing to a point where the discussion is disrupted.
B. Deleted due to a ToS Breach. Users will be notified of a content issue via Warning or Infraction
The ToS is fairly large, but covers the bases. Granted some users may not want to read the rules, but that is a user choice. Should the user breach the ToS due to lack of knowledge of the rules they are messaged or given a warning in the first instance to educate.
You are correct that ''Rude'' can be subjective, this is when if a user is unhappy with a deletion or official action taken against them, they can dispute it with the Managing Moderator. What one considers rude, another may consider it as toeing the line. Unfortunately there is no concrete definition of Rude that people can follow 100% to the letter as our interpretations will all differ. This is why we have a management structure so that we can look at a disputed case and make a final decision.
As for Grawlixes, I will added this to the current policies. We will treat these as we do with the filtering system whereby its infrequent use is fine.
If anyone wants to question a deleted post or staff member then I encourage them to message Lemans81
who is our Managing Moderator and he will be happy to look into it