Well after days of frustration I'm just about no better off than I was before.
I hope this bumps up so I can hear some feedback on others with Windows 7 and similar monitors. I've had two 22" 1650X1080 panels and both could handle 1440x900 @75hz.
I seem to remember even on Vista w/ my old 4870 having this be no problem fixing right in the ATI control panel. I remember having to do the old cool bits trick / riva / refresh force back w/ older nvidia drivers, but this is just obnoxious.
I have found tricks to turn off the forced DISPLAY scaling and be able to change to my custom made resolution of 1440x900 @75 ( verified via monitors OSD ). However ... when I go into any game, (other than counter strike 1.6 oddly) it goes right back to 60. Call of Duty and WoW alike both have options in their Graphic options to set at 75.
I have used both CRT and LCDS alike gaming since I was young. Even if you can't I can DEFINITELY see the difference from 60-75hz.
VSYNC IS A MUST!!!!!!!!!!!! TEARING RUINS AESTHETICS