Unable to get my RAM past 1066

I7 920 - 2.6 GHZ Nehalem Quad core
Intel DX58SO motherboard

OCZ Gold 6GB (3 x 2GB) 240-Pin DDR3 SDRAM DDR3 1600 (PC3 12800) Triple Channel Kit Desktop Memory Model OCZ3G1600LV6GK - Retail

The problem is the memory. Maybe I am doing it wrong but I cannot seem to get it to overclock properly, setting it even the slightest over 1066mhz will cause the system to not POST at all, or sound three beeps. After tinkering with the CPU I got it up to 3.4 Ghz no problem but even the slightest mod of the memory screen (even just changing it to manual settings when my base clock multiplier is raised) causes it to not work.

The RAM I have advertises timings of 8-8-8-24 at 1.65v.

The closest I can get to that is 1.66v which I chose (along with every other possible voltage.)

Also, I set the timings manually (so I thought... they were displayed at 7-7-7-16 default, whatever the first three rows of numbers are, ending with trasmin is what I am assuming the timings are) and had no success.

I just want to get my memory to 1600, or at the very least, 1333. Can someone give me a detailed step by step guide for overclocking the memory on this board? Do I have to overclock the cpu to overclock the memory? Before anyone says this board sucks for overclocking, I have read many reviews of people who were able to get 1600 easily so please help.

Thanks

UPDATE: It's also important to note that simply putting the memory area on "manual settings" seems to cause it to do the 3 beep non boot, EVEN IF I DONT SET IT ABOVE 1066. What the heck???

The "manual settings are as follows" These are the bios defaults which work fine in automatic mode but when I hit manual it refuses to boot, even if i dont change any of them:

UCLK Mult./ Mem Multiplier /tCL/tRCD/tRP/tRASmin / tRFC, tRRD, tWR, tWTR, tRTP / Volt
20 /80 / 7 / 7 / 7 / 16 / 59 / 4 / 8 / 4 / 4 / 1.54